So said Irving Berlin. I’m trying to write a funeral eulogy for mum without using the phrase: ‘She touched all our lives’ or ‘She will continue to live in all of us’ (what – like herpes?) and I’m finding it very hard. How do you sum up someone’s life? But what I really want to do is give an idea of her as an individual – not just ‘wife of’ or ‘mother of’
Here’s a picture of her looking serene while my sister and I (both going through a terrifying Axl Rose lookalike phase sit either side of her).
Meanwhile I’ve found a poem:
All Is Well
Death is nothing at all,
I have only slipped into the next room
I am I and you are you
Whatever we were to each other, that we are still.
Call me by my old familiar name,
Speak to me in the easy way which you always used
Put no difference in your tone,
Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow
Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes we enjoyed together.
Play, smile, think of me, pray for me.
Let my name be ever the household word that it always was,
Let it be spoken without effect, without the trace of shadow on it.
Life means all that it ever meant.
It it the same as it ever was, there is unbroken continuity.
Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight?
I am waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very near,
Just around the corner.
All is well.
By Henry Scott Holland (1847-1918)